Why Do I Call Myself Grief Freak?
Hi! I’m Beth Erlander, aka the Grief Freak. And again welcome, yet, I am sorry you are now part of this grief club.
Why Grief Freak? Well, I to me the word freak implies that someone is passionately obsessed with something…and for me that something is grief.
You see, I didn’t want to be a part of this club either. But in 2012 my beloved crashed on his mountain bike and broke his neck. The result was quadriplegia or paralysis from the chest down. Our life as we knew it was changed in an instant.
So the work I do with you is infused with my own journey of navigating this huge life transition, along with my 22 years of experience in the field of psychotherapy.
I became this grief freak because I was steeped in my own process and in order to make sense of it I read everything I could about grief and loss. I found my mentors-Sobonfu Somé, Francis Weller, Megan Devine and most recently Malidoma Practice Somé.
I also found that for my big grief, I needed out of the box ways to move it. So I did Dagara style grief rituals with Sobonfu and walked part of the Camino in France and Spain.
As a Creative Arts Therapist, I am constantly thinking of creative ways to keep grief moving. We never truly have “closure” with grief, rather, we have to find ways to integrate it and make peace with it.
So, I am passionate about helping you and others navigate this weird new landscape called grief.
I also call myself the Grief Freak because we live in a culture that is absolutely freaky about grief which makes it even harder to deal with your grief process. So many of us don’t know what to do or say when someone we love is grieving. So I am also a grief rebel and advocate. And I strive to live in a world that is simply OK with not being OK.
Professionally, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC #4210) in the state of Colorado and a Registered Art Therapist (ATR). I am a Certified Creative Grief Support Practitioner. I also have a I certification in Death and Grief Studies from The Center for Loss and Life Transition from Alan Wolfelt.
I am also trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing). I did it for my own trauma and loved the results, so I immediately got trained to use it with you.
Currently, due to the pandemic, I am only offering services remotely through Zoom or phone calls. Yet I very much look forward to offering sessions in my Boulder office setting in the future.
Lastly, if you are curious to know more about my entire professional background along with a few extra new life skills that I feel are truly important check out my full curriculum vitae here,
Thanks for being here and saying yes to living with your grief in a new and different way.,